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Originally Posted by fastkevman
Why is she so set on joining if you aren't for it, as a divorcee I can tell you that could be BIG trouble in the future.
On one hand if you go along with it you may end up resenting her terribly, especially if you end up somewhere you hate being.
On the other hand if its truly her lifes desire and not just a whim she could resent you if she didn't join because she knows you're not into it.
When I joined the Navy they told me and everyone else I met all kinds of great stuff just to get us to sign.....they rarely keep ANY promises whether its in writing or not......once you sign you are their property....period.
When I was in school after boot-camp I had a buddy that was from LA Cali and he was going to be stationed at Norfolk, I am from PA and was going to LongBeach (Snoopdogg territory), we had the same rate and school so we tried to get it switched, they wouldn't do it and never gave us a good reason why....they don't have to.
I enjoyed my time in Cali and was stationed on a great ship in one of the best battle groups, plus I did shore duty at LongBeach (closed) and San Diego.
I saw LOTS of failed marriages and in the end when I got hurt they tossed me away like I was garbage(you're just property to them).
Sounds like you guys should have a couple of long talks with each other and some ex-military to see what its like.
I will say though even with as tough as it was and the bad feelings I had being Medically Discharged like I was worthless, I still don't regret it.
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Yaeh, I understand. I was medically discharged from the Marines. Her father was in the navy and passed away while she was still young, so I know that is where some of the influence is coming from. She wants to follow in her fathers footsteps.
This is something she has wanted to do way before she met me so I know she has thought about it long and hard and trust me when I tell you that I gave her my .02 about her joining.
I have tried telling her what exactly she is getting into and that once she is in she can't back out. She says that she understands but I know she doesn't. There is no way to completely understand without being there first hand.
It is exactly like you said though. If I stop her from going then she will hold it over my head. So there is not really much of an option for me but to support her in the decision. With that said we have gotten into some pretty heated discussions over this for a couple months before I finally told her that she could do it.
Who knows, maybe she will enjoy it maybe she won't but she will have to learn from her mistake... and maybe I will hold that over her head one day.
