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Originally Posted by cootees
Thanks.. if it were up to me she wouldn't be going but there is not much that I can do but support her in her decisions.
We are aware that they can stick her pretty much anywhere but we still have to fill out the dream sheet and cross our fingers.
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Why is she so set on joining if you aren't for it, as a divorcee I can tell you that could be BIG trouble in the future.
On one hand if you go along with it you may end up resenting her terribly, especially if you end up somewhere you hate being.
On the other hand if its truly her lifes desire and not just a whim she could resent you if she didn't join because she knows you're not into it.
When I joined the Navy they told me and everyone else I met all kinds of great stuff just to get us to sign.....they rarely keep ANY promises whether its in writing or not......once you sign you are their property....period.
When I was in school after boot-camp I had a buddy that was from LA Cali and he was going to be stationed at Norfolk, I am from PA and was going to LongBeach (Snoopdogg territory), we had the same rate and school so we tried to get it switched, they wouldn't do it and never gave us a good reason why....they don't have to.
I enjoyed my time in Cali and was stationed on a great ship in one of the best battle groups, plus I did shore duty at LongBeach (closed) and San Diego.
I saw LOTS of failed marriages and in the end when I got hurt they tossed me away like I was garbage(you're just property to them).
Sounds like you guys should have a couple of long talks with each other and some ex-military to see what its like.
I will say though even with as tough as it was and the bad feelings I had being Medically Discharged like I was worthless, I still don't regret it.