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91TPU · 04-25-2007, 10:48 PM

ok, so usually im pretty good with making my own mind up...but im stumped on this one, and would like some outside advice...here we go

i dated a girl over the summer last year for about 8 months...the girl was amazing, her family was amazing, but she is 2 years younger then myself, and was just about to grad hs....well she graduated, and got accepted into college, with a nice scholarship, i was like hell yea go(i stay home, go to a community college). so a few weeks before she is off to school, we break up, she cites that she needs to be independant,(she always had a guy in her life, and this was a big growing/changing point for her).so we break up, and then she comes back here and there, and well, when were together, nothing is different its like were dating, but when shes gone, the idea/pain that shes not mine comes right back...so then things go downhill, we start fighting, stop talking for about 5 months, on and off she makes an effort, but i tell her too little too late...she IM's me the other day, and well i miss her, and think about her alot, so i talk to her, we get to talking and we starting reminiscing and well we end up being friends again...well now it gets tricky, with all this the feelings for her have really come back, i mean i truly loved this girl, i really did, and losing her hurt more then anything in my life...now its like what if we get back together, things are fantastic, and then the summer ends and shes gone again, thats something that i just cant deal with...but at the same time, what if it lasts past that, etc...

my biggest thing, and i told her, is i cant be like we were for those few months after we broke up, i can be just a friend with benefits, i need to be there either full time, or not at all...but with us things are bound to happen, in or out of a relationship...

gimme your thoughts, ideas, etc...